Mindtools.com is an excellent resource. Here is one example from their stress management training:
Toffler’s Stability Zones
Toffler’s concept is fairly simple. Stability Zones are places or things that make you feel safe, relaxed, and secure. Think of them as buffers – types of protection or defense – against the outside world. When you’re in or with your Stability Zone, you feel safe. It’s something safe and familiar, something that doesn’t change.
And they’re not limited to specific places. They can be things, people, objects, or even ideas:
- People – People Stability Zones offer you a relaxing, restful atmosphere when you’re with them. They listen to what you say, and you don’t have to try to be a different person when they’re around. They have values similar to yours, and they’ve probably been in your life for a long time. A Person Stability Zone could be a spouse, best friend, parent, or co-worker.
- Ideas – Idea Stability Zones could be anything from religious faith and political ideology to deeply held beliefs or values (such as environmental protection).
- Places – These are very common. Home is one of the most widely used places of refuge, to help someone feel “safe.” But a Place Stability Zone can also be larger in scale – like a country – or much smaller in scale – like a specific room.
- Things – These could be favorite possessions – like a well-loved book or family heirloom – or favorite clothes that make you feel good.
- Organizations – A favorite club, professional group, or even your company could be your Stability Zone – any place or group that you identify with and where you feel welcome.