Family therapy pioneer Virginia Satir pinpointed five communication styles — the pattern of engagement reflexively adopted when under duress. Find yours…
The placater is self-effacing and confrontation-averse and will say whatever needs to be said to service others. Your goal: to please.
The blamer needs to be right at all costs and will dominate, accuse and tyrannize in order to win. Your goal: power/superiority.
The super-reasoner adopts a robotically cool, intellectual stance to remain emotionally detached from situations. Your goal: control.
The distracter uses irrelevance, chatter and constant movement to disrupt and thus diffuse communication. Your goal: comfort.
The congruent communicator is genuinely expressive, listens to others, and is oriented on solving problems rather than gaining the upper hand. Your goal: solutions.